"The ultimate purpose in marriage is not to make us happy, but to glorify God."
- Nancy Leigh DeMoss
Recently, God has been teaching me that His timing is so much better than mine. Yesterday, my church recognized couples who have been married for more than 40 years!! It was an honor to be there and celebrate with the couples in our church that have reached this amazing milestone!! On the same day, our Pastor started a new series called, "Seven Signs of a Solid Marriage (Part 1)". If you would like to listen to this sermon please click here to visit our church's website.
Both of these things would not seem like a big deal to a normal person. However, for me this celebration and sermon series confirmed that God is taking care of me now matter what!!
What am I talking about? Let me try to explain.
A month or two ago, Jon and I had a pretty bad argument. Harmful words were spoken and feelings were hurt. At the end, I told Jon that if we fought like this one more time, we were going to go to counseling. Jon's response was completely unexpected, because he reminded me that I said the same thing the last time we had a bad argument.
That was the last straw for me.
The next morning, after some research, I called a Christian counselor in the area. Ever since, we've been meeting with our counselor every other week. As we told the counselor, we are not on the verge of divorce. However, there are things that we need to work on to make our marriage better. So, with the help of our counselor we have decided to work on building our communication skills, because that is where we need the most help.
For weeks, I have been so nervous that someone would find out that we were going to a counselor. It is silly, but honestly I have not wanted anyone to know about this. I was afraid that if people knew they would judge us or assume that we are about to get a divorce. What I forgot is that it is Satan who likes to keep things secret and hidden!!
Yesterday, the Lord freed me from the shame and embarrassment of seeing a counselor. One day, I want to be able to celebrate 40 years of marriage with Jon!! However, we are never going to get there if we ignore minor problems that are taking place right now.
The other reason that I am being open about this is, because maybe someone out there needs to know that they are not the only one struggling to have a good marriage. Are you going through a rough patch? Do you feel like throwing in the towel? Find a friend and/or counselor that you can talk with to help you work through some of your own issues, before giving up!!
Please keep us in your prayers as we continue to meet with our counselor.
Just for fun click here to check out Norm and Ethel talk about commitment!!